ADVANCED PRAISE
"Jorge N. Ferrer's Love and Freedom is a powerful, thought-provoking book, and a very welcome addition to the literature on consensual non-monogamy, and relationships more broadly. Written in a highly engaging and well-informed style, this book contains much of interest to the academic reader while being accessible to activists and general readers as well. Ferrer provides a timely overview on the relationship literature and the ways in which monogamy and polyamory have generally been framed, before heading into binary-busting territory. The divisions between monogamy and non-monogamy, jealousy and compersion, and love and freedom themselves, are all opened up for enjoyable and important exploration and challenge. Drawing on theory and research from biological science through to Buddhist philosophy, Ferrer suggests ways in which we could all occupy more fluid and transbinary positions in relation to love, engage in contemplative practices in order to experience love differently, and cultivate relationships which enable both interconnectedness and personal freedom."
Meg-John Barker, senior lecturer in psychology at Open University. Former editor of Psychology and Sexuality, co-editor of Understanding Non-Monogamies, and author of numerous books, including The Psychology of Sex, Rewriting the Rules, and Life Isn’t a Binary.
"Like previous groundbreaking works that have suggested a blurring of established and cherished identity categories, Jorge Ferrer’s Love and Freedom boldly introduces the notion of “relational freedom” into the collective consciousness. The central premise of this book is refreshing: the idea that style of connection—monogamous, polyamorous, even asexual or aromantic—might not be fixed or essential personality categories, but rather stops along a long, personal road, perhaps even (for some) facets of more complicated orientations (e.g., monogamish, ambisexual, or Ferrer’s proposed frame of the fuzzy, liminal, queered relational space of novogamy). This provocative volume cuts across multiple politics and investments in a way that might cause both monogamous and nonmonogamous alike to clutch their pearls, and for that alone it is worth the read."
Nathan Rambukkana, assistant professor of Communication Studies, Wilfrid Laurier University. Author of Fraught Intimacies: Non/Monogamy in the Public Sphere.
"I read this book with a sigh of relief and renewed energy that the study and living of consensual non-monogamies is not heading down the monogamist track of binary, division, fixity and hierarchy. All too soon social movements meant to enlarge and embrace fluidity and possibility in our intimate lives may become entrenched in having to pick a new term for one's relationship and stick to it for life. We know where that too often ends up for too many relationships in coerced monogamy, and we don’t want to repeat that in the exploration of relationship diversity across the lifespan, place, and contexts. Bring on what Jorge calls novogamy with its freedoms and ethics, its possibilities and care!"
Maria Pallota-Chiarolli, senior lecturer in Social Diversity in Health and Education at Deakin University, Australia, and author of Border Sexualities, Border Families in Schools and co-author of The Politics of Recognition and Social Justice.
The title of the book says it all: Love and Freedom. Too often we equate freedom with being free from the constraints and responsibilities of love. It’s either love or freedom. Ferrer offers a way to have it all—love and freedom no matter what kind of relationships you want or have. For those of you who are perhaps curious about but not familiar with polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, or the “mono-poly wars,” this book offers a cogent and thorough explanation of all those things and more. More important, if you have never given polyamory a second thought or if you’ve polyamorous you’re entire life you will find much in this book that both challenges and inspires.
Mimi Schippers is the Chair Department of Sociology and Professor of Gender & Sexuality Studies at Tulane University, and author of Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer.
Jorge Ferrer brings a highly creative and original mind into psychology and spirituality going back 20 years to his Revisioning Transpersonal Theory, which I reviewed at the time, and his more recent essays on Participation and the Mystery. He addresses the whole nature and future of intimate relationships from an extensive knowledge of background literature with over 40 pages of references as well as copious notes at the end of each chapter. How best to allow sufficient freedom within love is a key personal issue for all of us, one which has certainly engaged me and forms a context for the Love School at the Tamera community. (www.tamera.org) It is very clear as a culture that we are going through an upheaval in traditional ways of relating. Jorge asks the question: ‘what if, rather than trying to conform to outmoded or inadequate relational structures, people boldly cocreate intimate lives more attuned to their essential dispositions, changing needs and deepest desires?’
David Lorimer, Programme Director, Scientific and Medical Network, author of Whole in One.
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